An attempt to understand how fate, destiny or whatever you call it work.

Create your future map.
Decide on how you want your future to be like—the kind of life you want to live and the kind of person you want to be in the future. Put them in paper, write them in your journal or better yet draw them.
Plan your moves. Make a list of the things that you will do that will help you get to the kind of life that you imagine yourself living in the future. Make specific action plans on how you will go about becoming the person you want to be.
Make them happen. Set the wheels in motion. Get started with your journey. Some people never get to their future because they wait for it to come to them. Act out what is in your list and execute your action plans one by one (at the soonest possible time).
Follow the signs (even the tell tale ones). God will send you dozens of them to guide you on your way, to lead you to the right path and decisions, and to affirm your actions. Tune in to them.

Learn from other travelers.
Take advices from seasoned travelers who are almost at their future. Listen to what they have to say. Pick up helpful tips from them that you can use in your own journey.

Trust your instinct when you are faced with an uncertainty.
If you suddenly find yourself unsure of which way to go, ask your heart and your heart will know. Your instinct is actually God whispering to you, do not ignore it.
Forego shortcuts. You will definitely encounter many as you continue with your journey to your future. Though they promised to deliver you to your future the quickest way possible, you will later on realize that although you are living exactly the kind of life you want for yourself, you have not yet become the kind of person that you want to be. It is because you missed out a lot of those important turns along the way that would help you become the perfect you. You technically have not arrived yet.

Take advantage of Pitstops.
To get to your future, you need to learn to stop and slow down once in a while. To recharge, to give yourself a little break, to fix and mend broken heart, bruises and scars that you will surely get along the way. The journey to your future is not always smooth. It can get really bumpy and rough at times. Give yourself time to heal.
Enjoy the stopovers. Smell the flowers, pause to watch the sunrise and sunset, stop for a quick play, enjoy a nice long drink with your partner, pamper yourself and relax. Lastly, do not forget to be a mom, a dad, a friend and a partner to your loved ones.
Never leave yourself behind. If at some point in your journey you decided to ditch your true self and pretend to be someone you really are not then you will not arrive to your own future. Worst, you will end up living out another person’s future. Major heartbreak.
So how will you know if you have finally arrived at your future? Only the heart will know, only the heart will surely know. =)

About Me

I am better known as Nan’s widow, Bianca Angela’s mom, and Woodrose’s Mrs. Dela Cruz.  I am a full time teacher and mentor, a freelance writer for various print and online publications, a marathoner, and a curator of inspiring faith stories.
I am also the author of the best selling book, Grace Upon Grace: A widow’s journey.:)


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