They always say that motherhood is a tough job. As your child goes through the different developmental stages marked by different developmental milestones, the mother (dragging the father along) goes through also these agonizing stages with her child. Toddler years witness the struggle of the child through the painful period of teething, for the mothers (again dragging the fathers along) it spells days and nights of pacifying a crying, uncomfortable child, trips to the pedia due to the different illnesses that comes with teething and thousand diaper changes as the baby goes through to use the tagalog lingo–“nagtatae kasi nagiipin” stage…When the baby has a complete set of milk teeth and in the case of most babies, complete pair of front teeth up and down, the next painful stage for the moms (with the daddy as shock absorbers) is teaching the baby to learn how to walk and at the same time talk. You go through the back breaking “practice walking” while going hysterics everytime your baby falls and hurt herself. You get frustrated (like me!!) when at one year and 4 months she is still walking on tiptoes, as if wearing high heels that’s why she can’t seem to walk. Of course the oldies will say, “nauna kasi magsalita” and if in the case of being able to walk first and can’t seem to utter a coherent word yet, “naupuan kasi ang dila kasi naunang maglakad”…of course your baby (well, mine did) will just suddenly stand up in front of your very eyes one day just like that as if she does it all the time and start walking never to sit down again for the rest of her toddler life…See, its nerve racking being a mother..and that’s not all..the mother (angkinin ba ang developmental stage!), well actually the baby, has to go through the transition of drinking milk from the bottle to cup and making poops and wewee in the diaper to the toilet bowl…here, the mother’s creative power comes to work for she has to think of ways on how to con her child into drinking from the cup. My wicked mother put pepper in my bottle while this mother is a softie, I made the milk in the bottle taste so bland while the one in the cup so sweet and yummy. But of course at first it wasn’t that easy, I used the excuses of the bottles getting burned and the bottles getting lost which didn’t work….As for the transition from diaper to using the toilet, you have to seek not only the help of your husband but also the teachers of your child (Ms. Owen, remember?!hahaha). There will be crying days where you and your child will have a test of wills and shouting matches. In the case of my daughter, the one that made her finally use the bathroom after 3 straight days of not making poops is the illusive and beautiful—plantsa plantsahan (ironing toy) set in Toy Kingdom.:) Well, for the delicate growing years that’s about it..but I’m not done yet..The following developmental stages may not be as frustrating and nerve racking as the toddler years but still something that sometimes freaks us moms. There’s the first day in pre-school, the separation stage, wherein the child has to be left in school all by herself, my daughter had hers after being in school for a month and it was heartbreaking to see and hear her cry coz I was just in the other room teaching other kids. There’s the entrance exam in the big school, sleepless nights thinking if you made the right decision in letting her go to the big school and if you choose the right school. But then you will see her happy with the other kids, having group of friends, learning how to read all by herself, solving complex problems, you’ll ask yourself, “what was all that worrying about!”. Of course, its not nice and dandy after that, there will be days when your child comes to you crying because she just discovered that her friend didn’t turn out to be a nice friend after all or because some girls do not want her to play with them..Then you go through that worrying and agonizing stage of boosting up your child’s self-esteem…And of course not to forget, reviewing for the quarter exams, trying to understand and comprehend number bonds, making reviewers and answer sheets for a mock tests, sleeping late helping your child memorize a poem, making props and making projects (but of course these things you forced your husband to do)..Yup, motherhood is indeed a tough job…as your child goes through these developmental stages and you go through these stages with her, a kiss, a hug and  words of encouragement are the only things that she needs…in the mother’s case, its just a simple, “I love you mommy, you’re the best mommy ever!” is everything that you need..I love you too Bianca and you’re the best daughter ever!!:)Me and my kiddo

About Me

I am better known as Nan’s widow, Bianca Angela’s mom, and Woodrose’s Mrs. Dela Cruz.  I am a full time teacher and mentor, a freelance writer for various print and online publications, a marathoner, and a curator of inspiring faith stories.
I am also the author of the best selling book, Grace Upon Grace: A widow’s journey.:)


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